A large majority of the time, arguments arise out of unmet emotional needs because the truth is arguments reveal the heart.
So what is their heart saying? They need to live in a clean environment and be proactive with any sort of clutter because otherwise it’s emotionally upsetting to them.
To easily disarm the other person in an argument, look for the emotional need behind their words. Figure out why your partner is so upset over what seems so small and silly to you.
The answer to that question will help you not only understand the other person, but it’ll help you figure out the correct step to take to meet their emotional need and maintain a healthy and positive climate for communication in the relationship.